On Gang Bangs

A reader e-mailed me recently to ask how Kit enjoyed her gang bang.

This occurred late last year. A group of us attended a swinger's party, found it uncomfortable and decided to have our own party at someones home. Kit then entertained four (or five) of the men while Ember and I had some of our own fun with a young man named Jason.

I'm not sure about other women but I don't see how anyone can truly enjoy more than two men at the same time. Please note, the phrase "truly enjoy" as distinguished from having fun. I can see how attention from a group of men could be fun. Truly enjoy? I'm skeptical.

Sex is a wonderful give-and-receive experience, whether it's giving and receiving pleasure, attention, love and, ultimately, bodily fluids. You can develop that give-and-receive with one or two other people. It's like dinning at a fine restaurant where attention to detail makes the meal a memorable experience. Gang bangs look like the sexual equivalent of going through the McDonald's drive-thru: the food is cheap, fast, forgettable and God knows how many people handled it before it got to your mouth.

Steve has two porn DVD's that feature gang bangs, or at least two that I know of. The first one is done quite well. It features five or six men with a real cutie. It has a real, light touch to it where everyone looks like they're having, if not an intimate, romantic moment, at least some fun. You can tell from her look, especially her eyes, that she does not dislike her work.

The other gang bang scene looks almost criminal. It features ten or more men and a lifeless woman who looks like she'd rather be having root canal without anesthesia. Her eyes look empty. At the end, all the men cum on her face and in her mouth. If you've read me in the past you know that I cannot be labeled a prude. I enjoy taking a load in the face and/or mouth for my men. One load, maybe two. What I saw in the movie was just gratuitous and mind-numbing. There's a fine line between the erotic and the comedic.

My own flirtation with a gang bang occurred a few years back when I was with three men. I knew all three, liked all three and trusted all three. I don't know if you need a specific amount of men for official, gang bang status. I'm sure three men don't qualify. Steve's theory is that for there to be a gang bang the girl can have all holes filled and still have at least one guy waiting in line for a turn. Not as eloquently stated as some other theories but point taken.

Three men caused sensory overload. You find yourself concentrating so much on pleasuring the men and coordinating that pleasure that you have little time to concentrate on yourself. In short, too much of a good thing.....

Kit's take was somewhat like mine. On the purely physical side, she found it physically tiring. She also had the sensory overload experience where she was unable to savor the moment because too much was happening all at once.

She did note, as did I, that mentally, it's a rush. The sheer naughtiness of it produces more of a climax between the ears than between the legs. But, perhaps, all of our best orgasms happen more in the head than in other regions of the body.