How to Please a Woman

...or at least this woman.

This post was suggested by a reader. He made the suggestion after my post on how to please a man. Since I'm suffering from bloggers block lately I thought his idea might help me out a bit. Like the previous post, this is all about what happens between the sheets....or on top of the sheets or with no sheets at all.

Like men, all women are different when it comes to pleasure. Nonetheless, are a few things that, if not universal, are generally applicable to all women. So, without further ado, How to Please a Woman.

I could start with something sarcastic and say: Turn into a bag of Hershey Chocolate Kisses at 1:00AM, but I would never say that. I wouldn't even think that.

1. Desire - Nothing physical required. A woman wants to be desired. Don't be shy. Express that desire in words. I've heard men say they feel self-conscious about expressing desire. They completely miss the point. It's about her, not about feeling self-conscious. Feeling desired is a wonderful aphrodisiac. Tell her she's beautiful, gorgeous, hot....whatever words you would use. Expressing a desire for her when you have zero chance of getting laid is also a great idea. It has a sincerity that is sometimes missing when you say it while your cock is already in her mouth.

2. Foreplay - Personally, I can't overstate how much I love foreplay. This is a great time for expressing desire (see #1 above). Remember, we are not the visual creatures that men are. Recently, a woman sent Steve a photo of herself exposing her breasts. He was turned on by this naked stranger. But guys, a picture of you naked? Not so much. There are exceptions of course (just about any member of the US Olympic Swim Team comes to mind) but those are few and far between. Point is, expressing desire and foreplay lead us to wanting you. We don't go straight for the cock. I know some men view foreplay like the National Anthem before a big game: Yes, they love their country but they want to get to the first pitch. Try engaging in foreplay until she can't take it anymore. It might take a while but it'll be worth the wait.

3. Express Excitement - When it comes to sex, stoicism is bad. Nothing is worse than being with a man that lies there, quietly. We have egos and we want to know we're pleasing you. Tell us what feels good. You'll get more of it, trust me.

4. Priority - Try to have her climax first. It sounds selfish but it makes sense. When a man goes too far too fast the night might end prematurely. By ensuring that she cums first, some of the pressure is off. It doesn't matter how: Fingers, mouth or a combination of both.

5. Expand the Map - Sex often focuses on the obvious parts of the body: Tits, pussy, ass. Don't forget about other areas. Attention to areas such as the neck, shoulders and back can reap great rewards for both people. Any part of the body can be an erogenous zone. That's different than saying every part of the body should be an erogenous zone but that's all up to you.

6. Pace - During a good speech, the speaker will often vary the volume of their voice. We tend to pay more attention to a speaker when they get louder or when their voice falls below normal volume. This variety also works during sex when it comes to pace. It can't be all fast and hard or all slow and soft. Mixing it up is good. We can become overstimulated, especially after an orgasm. If a woman stops you, it's not because she doesn't like it, it's usually just the opposite. Concentrate on something else for a while and we'll be ready again real soon.

Well, that's it for now. Nothing I've mentioned is any huge secret and it may not work for every woman. We're all different. The above is the formula that works for me. Some might find it ironic that there's virtually nothing mentioned about actual penetration (aside from the pace comment). I can't speak for anyone else but me but I think you'll find that for many women the most important parts of sex occur before and after actual penetration and the greatest erogenous zones are the heart and mind.