We apologize for the lack of posts. Things have been hectic, with the wedding fast approaching. That may slow things down here from time to time for the next month or so. I hope it doesn't slow things down too much.
Chris and I had a terrific time last weekend and went out again last night. Steve had a date with Chase, who threw him something of a bachelor party. I didn't ask about details and I'm not sure if I want to know. Steve's been a real prince lately, doing all he can to help out with things, so he deserves a good time with Chase.
In the meantime, a reader asked for some advice about anal sex. Hmmm. I'll give it a go. I'm not exactly sure where to start. I suppose there are three attitudes: 1) Like it; 2) Don't like it; 3) Will do it but not into it.
I understand the first two attitudes but not the third. If you are participating in anal but don't like it, for any number of reasons, there's no advice or insight I can give anyone. On the other hand, if you are exploring anal sex and have some issues, some insight or advice may help. First, some background on my experiences and thoughts.
I experienced anal sex before vaginal sex. I was in high school and my boyfriend and I had a lot of oral and anal sex. Or, I should say, that oral and anal sex was a large part of my sex life. It began at his request and I often thought of it as foolproof birth-control. The first time was actually pretty good. We were both drunk and he came quickly. The second time was rough. After that, I made sure to have super-sized, family-size lube nearby whenever we got together.
My only advice is:
1) Take it slow;
2) Lube;
3) Relax;
4) Lube.
5) Remind him an ass isn't a pussy;
6) Lube.
As for positions, I'd start with female on top. You can control everything that way. After that, try the missionary position. I often climax in this position quite easily. Lastly, is doggie-style. Guys always want to try this position first. It must be the porn. You should work your way up to this position. It's the trickiest and can often hurt if you lack experience or have an unskilled partner.
It isn't a bad idea to work up to a full-size cock by using a small dildo. That may help if you want to try anal but are stressing about his size.
Good luck and be careful. See you soon.
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Piper-
Speaking from my own experience of being used sexually by dominant female partners with strapons, I would second your comments.
Using fingers and butt plugs to train and stretch the anus is very effective, too. If possible, a butt-plug harness for extended plug wearing will do wonders.
My former Mistress, XM, could tell quite easily how much recent stretching had accomplished.
Once the sub/bottom is used to the feeling of entry and movement, anal sex can become as active and wild as conventional entry. Even for a male recipient. :)
Also, I agree completely that, at least initially, the fuckee on his/her back, being taken by the cocksperson from the top, is easier. In time, doggie style will be easier.
Regards,
-saratoga
Hmm, interesting that you both have said doggie-style is the hardest. For me, it was the first position tried and it worked well. Except even though it was doggie-style I was still in control, aka I backed up onto his penis so I could stop or move myself up or down slightly if I needed to. Just another way to try if you never have.
I'd love to hear a bit about your wedding planning. I am surprised that decisions about the details haven't even gotten a mention. When's the big day? What's left to plan? Is the planning stressful or enjoyable? How is this period affecting your relationship?
thanks so much piper ( and other anal aficionados )! i'm the anal girl ( or thinkin' i want to try it, anal girrrrrrl ). do you cum harder or better that way, do you prefer anal over vaginal? enough about me :). good luck with all the wedding stuff!
toodles~s
Hi Piper,
I want to thank you for this post...my fiance and would very much like to try anal, so thanks for the advice and pointers!
Also, I too am in the process of planning my wedding...perhaps we could be each others' 'wedding pals'? :-)
Enjoy the rest of your day...
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